Responsibilities and Expectations of a Setter

A setter has many responsibilities and expectations are very high for this position. She is the player that runs the court and is ultimately in charge of the offense. Let’s take a look at the various responsibilities and expectations of a setter in hopes that during this season coaches can help their setters take on these responsibilities, and players can set goals to meet these expectations.

• Know who to set in various situations. This knowledge comes from meetings with the coach, a game plan, and experience.
• Determine what will be the most efficient set, combination, or offensive strategy in various rotations and situations.
• Setters must be a good psychologist knowing:
  • The most efficient way to motivate teammates
  • How to show confidence in players
  • How to radiate confidence * How to handle hitters
  • How to keep all players involved in the game
  • How to keep all players involved in the offense
• To eliminate confusion in the offense. The setter must communicate the plays before serve reception and free-ball situations.
• A setter must know all overlaps, where you are supposed to be and where hitters and passers are supposed to be.
• A setter must be able to visually and verbally communicate with the coach during the match.

• A setter should be an extension of the coach’s attitude.
• A setter must be in control of her emotions at all times.
• A setter should seek feedback from hitters.
• A setter should have the attitude that “I can take any 5 players and we will find a way to win”
• A setter must be prepared to take every second ball. If other players get in your way, it is the setter’s responsibility to make it clear that you will set unless you call for help.
• A setter should yell for help on every ball she cannot get to or have made the first contact on.
• There is no such thing as a bad pass. If a pass is not perfect, it is the setter’s responsibility to improve the team’s chances of scoring by making the best possible set.
• The setter should give the hitter a set which gives her the best opportunity for a kill.
• No one player can lose a match, but a setter having a poor day can have the most impact on a game.

PARENTS’ CORNER
“Serving others in your child’s sports”

OK. So you want your child to be happy and healthy. You want your child to excel. You want your child to experience as much success as possible on the court, field or track. Good for you! There’s no problem there. The more important question is how will you go about doing this? Do you know what the very best way is to insure that your child has a happy, healthy and successful sports experience? Do you know the “do’s” and “don’ts” of creating a champion in your home? It all boils down to that Tao principle mentioned earlier: Selflessness. You have to make sure that you are able to steer as clear as possible from the natural urge to be selfish when it comes to your child’s sport.

Now I’m not referring to the more common meanings of selfish that the word usually conjures up. That kind of selfish behavior is overt and blatant. The selfishness that I’m speaking about is far subtler than that. It’s the self-centeredness that comes from being too invested in your child’s athletic success. It’s that powerful inner need that YOU feel to have your child win/excel no matter what. When your feelings about your child’s performance become too important, when they begin to eclipse your son or daughter’s own interests and investment in the sport, then you have lost your perspective and, as a result, you’ll lose touch with your child’s needs and well being.

The kind of selfishness I refer to here masquerades as care and concern for your child. You look like you’re doing all these wonderful things for your child. You’re getting her extra lessons. You’re paying for advanced camps and training. You are spending gobs of your own time and energy working out with him. You’ve even paid for a speed and conditioning coach. With all you’ve invested it’s very easy for you to say, “Look at all I’ve done for him/her.” But the more important question here is, who are you really doing all of this good stuff for?

Are you really serving your child when you do this? Are you contributing to his/her personal happiness and love for the sport? Are you giving a true gift of love, no strings attached or is this somehow a business deal that you’ve made where you expect a good return on your investment. When you directly or indirectly remind your son or daughter how much you’ve done for them, are you being selfless and serving them? When you show your disappointment at their poor play or freely offer your criticism, who are you doing this for? Understand that you are only serving yourself when you respond to your child’s mistakes and failures in this way. You may protest and say, “Yes, but I’m just helping him get tougher, faster and better by doing this. Besides, isn’t that my job as an interested, loving parent?”

When it comes to your children’s sports, this isn’t your job. Your job is to be unconditionally loving, supportive, kind and understanding. Your job is to be an appropriate role model. It is not to push, criticize or attempt to forcefully mold your son or daughter into a winner the way that you think they should be. This is not in their best interests and is certainly not serving them. One of the more common blind spots that we have as parents is to impose our model of the world directly onto our children. We tend to project how we would be if we were in their situation and then we expect them to act the way we would. For example, “If I had your talent, then I’d be practicing 24/7, 365.” “Remember son, I know you won the silver medal, but I watched that match and there were several things you did wrong. You never want to settle for second place,” (at least that’s how I run my business). “When I was your age, I’d be getting extra help every chance I could.”

Serving your child in his/her sport is about quietly listening to and observing him/her and being willing to follow your son or daughter’s lead. Let them have responsibility for and control over the sport. Let them decide where they want to go and the goals that they want to accomplish. Let them determine how much and how hard they want to practice. In the process, your job is to supportively facilitate things for them without your own agenda getting in the way.

Serve the team that your child plays on. Help the coach and the other players. Distance yourself from the playing time issue. If you get overly caught up with your son or daughter’s PT, which is very easy to do, you are no longer thinking about the good of the team, you are thinking about your own needs and those of your child. Help your child understand that on every winning team, every player has a role to play. You might not like the role, but for the team to be successful, every player must do that job as assigned by the coach to the very best of his/her ability. If PT is a serious issue, then help your child figure out a constructive way to approach the coach to learn what he/she might do to improve.

Along these same lines, serve the team by being a good team player yourself. If your child has to sit the bench, help him/her develop a positive attitude about it. Do not fuel the easy-to-fall into selfishness of putting down the players that are starting in front of your son or daughter. In the stands be sure that you cheer for everyone on the team, especially when your child is sitting on the bench. To be fair, sometimes this is very difficult to do as a parent. However, it’s a must if you want to walk the way of a champion.

Serve the coach by supporting him/her. Don’t bad-mouth him/her to your child or other parents. Support team functions. Volunteer your time when possible. Educate new parents to the team’s policies and the coach’s ways. Please understand that I am not advocating that you adopt this stance if the coach is extremely negative or abusive. That’s a completely different situation where your child’s emotional needs far outweigh the coach’s needs and wants.

Finally, understand that taking the higher road and walking the way of a champion as a parent is a very difficult path to follow. Being human you will slip and fall many times. What counts, however are not the slips and falls, but how often and quickly you can get back on your feet following the right way.

Selflessness in a team sport translates directly to winning because you can work most efficiently 
and effectively when players work together.
Real strength lies in knowing what you don't know, empowering others, being secure in your own skin 
and sometimes leading by letting others lead.
The majority of successful people are ones who collaborate, take responsibility and care for 
others.

Things to Think About
How can being selfless or collaborative help you as an athlete? How can it help you outside your 
sport?
What does strength mean to you? What are some of the qualities that you think make a strong leader?

Ways to Practice
This week, find one way to empower or help both a teammate and someone outside your team.
Find one opportunity to take advice from or collaborate with a teammate and someone outside your 
team.
Think about the qualities you came up with around strength. Find one way you can embody those 
qualities this week.